Women Share What Truly Makes Men Great In Bed — And It Might Surprise You

Forget the measuring tape — it turns out that’s not what really matters in the bedroom.

A new survey is flipping the script on what it means to be “good in bed,” and spoiler alert: it has nothing to do with size.

While conversations around global average penis sizes have been trending lately, there’s actually no reason to lose sleep over it.

Elite Daily surveyed 100 women, aged 19 to 50, to uncover what genuinely makes a man memorable between the sheets.

Participants were presented with a list of 15 different behaviors and were asked to rate each one as “very important,” “somewhat important,” or “not important” when it comes to deciding if a man is truly great in bed.

Confidence

Confidence came out on top, with a massive 96% of women saying that a man who takes the lead is a major turn-on — as long as he’s also paying attention to their needs and open to feedback.

Spicing things up was another big win. 86% of women said they’re not here for the same old routine — they want variety. That means experimenting with new positions, switching up the tempo, and keeping things fresh.

Sometimes, it’s all about that movie-style intensity — think 50 Shades of Grey — while other times, it’s the slow, emotionally charged connection like in Normal People that really does it.

And next on the list? A factor that might surprise you…

Fitness

Now, don’t panic — when women say fitness matters, they’re not talking about six-packs or bulging biceps.

It’s all about stamina — having the energy to stay present, engaged, and make the experience enjoyable for both people.

Around 90% of women said that bringing the right level of energy into the bedroom plays a big role in how good the experience feels.

Surprisingly, only 33% were concerned about how quickly a guy finishes. Most said what really matters is whether he’s willing to keep going and make sure everyone walks away satisfied.

And from there, the survey dove into the spicier stuff…

Suitable Dirty Talk

When it comes to dirty talk, there’s a fine line between turning someone on and totally killing the vibe. And the secret ingredient? Respect.

No one wants to feel objectified mid-moment. In fact, 53% of women said guys should steer clear of anything too over-the-top, and 74% preferred keeping things simple over sounding like they’re reciting lines from an adult film.

Often, a sincere “You’re so sexy” lands way better than any rehearsed script.

Next up? A major factor that should be obvious — but somehow still gets overlooked way too often…

Foreplay

Here’s where things get real: skipping foreplay? Big mistake — huge.

Most women can’t reach orgasm through penetration alone, so brushing past foreplay is basically setting yourself up for failure.

A whopping 86% of women said foreplay plays a huge role in how they rate a guy’s skills in bed.

Even something as simple as deep, passionate kissing or paying attention to other sensitive areas before diving into the main event can seriously elevate the experience — and 90% of respondents completely agreed.

Cunnilingus

If you’re not familiar with the term, cunnilingus refers to oral sex performed on a vagina — and yes, it absolutely matters.

In fact, if you’re not willing to give as much as you get, you’re seriously missing the point.

A solid 82% of women said that a guy refusing to go down on them instantly made him less impressive in bed.

Bottom line: don’t be a hypocrite. It’s all about mutual pleasure — enough said.

Orgasm Awareness

A truly great partner knows how to read the room — and the body.

About 73% of women said that knowing how to tease an orgasm out, rather than rushing it, really sets someone apart in bed.

But here’s the catch: sometimes, it’s just not happening — and that’s okay.

A huge 89% of women said it’s equally important for a guy to recognize when to back off, rather than forcing the moment.

The takeaway? Sensitivity is everything. And if you’re unsure, just ask — communication is way sexier than guessing wrong.

Not Being Afraid to Get a Bit Rough

As long as everything is consensual and talked through ahead of time, 75% of women said they enjoy it when their partner isn’t afraid to get a little rough in bed.

But here’s the key — it’s all about balance.

Don’t skip the aftercare. A bit of tenderness, like cuddling or checking in afterward, can make the whole experience feel safer, more connected, and even more satisfying.

Aftercare

Even if things get wild in the moment, a lot of women still crave that sweet post-intimacy connection.

Cuddling, gentle touches, or even just holding hands afterward can go a long way.

That little bit of affection after the fact? It’s often just as meaningful as everything that came before.

Keeping Your Ears and Eyes Open

Above all else, communication is everything.

Sex can be incredible, but it can also quickly turn awkward or uncomfortable if someone isn’t paying attention.

That’s why 84% of women said they consider a man “good in bed” if he’s great at picking up on both verbal and non-verbal cues.

So stay present — watch, listen, and don’t be afraid to ask if you’re unsure. Being tuned in makes all the difference.